Waiting Sucks

Yes. Waiting for results to happen or waiting to get certain things, really does suck. We have all suffered of impatience, especially in the world today, where our culture is so caught up and focused on having everything right away. You want that new dress you bought online fast, then just get expedite shipping, you want to listen to that new album or watch that new movie, you can download it in minutes. We are becoming so accustomed to having things instantly that, sadly, we are becoming slaves to the immediate. We want everything now and everything fast. With technology making a lot of this possible, we are forgetting about the things that do take time; it takes time to build a career, it takes time to grow a relationship, it takes time to save money. In reality, the things that are most important in life take time, as well as a lot of hard work, and extreme diligence. A definition of maturity is the ability to delay pleasure. Meaning that you have to be mature enough to prioritize what is more important to you, and say no to other things, that are not really beneficial. People are having a hard time maturing these days, and it is all because they can’t delay pleasure. People act like that 4 year old in the cereal aisle at a super market that throws a fit. Remember the paradox of life; yes life goes by fast, but also remember that life is long. Anything worthwhile will take time. Don’t be so trigger-happy for everything. Analyze your priorities, and really think what is the best thing for you. And most importantly, learn to be patient. I believe you can get anything you want in life if you have a plan, and work day in and day out to get it.

Thanks for reading.

I leave you with a quote this week,

“ THE WORLD STEPS ASIDE FOR THE MAN WHO KNOWS WHERE HE IS GOING”
–James Allen

Advertisements

I don’t want a good life

I’m reading this great business book called Good to Great by Jim Collins. The book is fantastic and should definitely be read by anyone with a business mind. Collins and his colleagues studied companies that suddenly sky-rocketed and went from GOOD TO GREAT. The purpose was to find out what the secret of these companies was and what moves were made by these companies that gave them their breakthrough. I am only a few chapters into the book, but what I want to focus on today on a particular topic that Collins analyzes in the very first Chapter: GOOD IS THE ENEMY OF GREAT. Think about it, Collins says why don’t we have great schools? To which he responds, because we have good schools, why don’t we have a great government? Because we have a good government, and more profoundly, WHY DON’T WE HAVE GREAT LIVES? Because we rather settle for good lives. I am almost 100 percent sure that everybody wants to live a good life, and I think everybody will agree with me on the 3 things that we all generally want out of life:

1. Be Happy
2. Be Healthy
3. Be reasonably Wealthy.

Frankly, I do want these 3 things and I do want a good life, but after reading this chapter it challenged me to stop thinking about wanting a good life; I don’t want a good life, I want a GREAT life. We only get one shot at this life so why should we settle for good when we can have great? Why settle and conform rather than becoming the best we can be? As they say, be the change you want to see in the world. If you want to have a better life be a better person, if you want better friends be a better friend, if you want a better relationship with your spouse be a better husband or wife, if you want better kids, then be a better parent, if you want a better boss, then be a better employee. It goes back to the law of reciprocity, that exactly what you send out is exactly what you get back. I think if we keep aiming higher every time and try to continuously be better, we will reach greatness.

One quick tip: When we are asked “Hi how are you?” we generally say “Good and you?” If you want to live a great life, then I challenge you to change your answer and from now on when people ask how are you doing respond “Great and you?” It is a very simple and subtle change, but it can make a big difference on the way you are perceived by the other person and it can set a tone for a completely different mood.

Thanks for reading. If you enjoyed this blog and want to go from good to great together please subscribe.

I have a right not to go to school

Although every person has the right to not go to school or to not get a degree; I believe, we do not have the right to not get an education. We need to be consistently learning; always asking questions, because there are always people out there that know things that we do not know. Technology has changed the face of education at such a tremendous magnitude that we literally have knowledge at our fingertips. Any question we have can be quickly answered trough a “google” search. During times of change, only the learners will move on and be successful. Just like in business: if you keep doing business like yesterday, you will not be in business tomorrow. The only constant in this world is change. As we carry on in this journey called life, we need to be learning every single day. We need to accept the fact that learning will be a never-ending battle. You might have finished your formal education, but you are definitely not done learning. We need to possess a teachable spirit. Being teachable is a choice, you decide intentionally to have the right attitude and mindset to keep learning in life. We need to have an open mind because a close mind will not create opportunities. For example, I want to know everything there is to life, I try to have a beginner’s mindset for everything and try to listen all I can. However, I am realistic and I will not know everything in this world, but I do know that I will continue to learn everyday and that I will die asking questions. Wisdom is gained through a lifetime of listening and asking questions. Ultimately, we learn by asking questions. In formal education, we are giving tests full of questions to find out if we know the material, but in life we must ask our own questions and test ourselves. Asking questions at the beginning of the day or at the end of the day will help us reflect on the learning opportunities each day brings us.

What are you entitled to?

Image

Plain and simple, we are not entitled to anything. One huge problem in our culture and our society is that we are breeding kids and now young adults that are growing up with an entitlement mentality. They believe someone owes them something. They believe that you don’t need to put something in the equation to get a return. They are like a farmer that expects a big harvest without planting a seed. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to see this infecting our culture. You see it does not work like that, you can’t say to your boss “ I will start getting to work on time, when you give me that raise,” that is ridiculous. We are still in America, which was built on capitalism, where you can work as hard as you want and as longest you want to reach your goals; never forget that. At the end of the day you have the choice to better your life; you decide when to wake up, you decide whether or not to read, you decide who to associate with, you decide how to dress, you decides how to spent your money, you decided your attitude. YOU, YOU, YOU. You are the one that makes all these decisions and you don’t deserve a single penny, unless you INTENTIONALLY work your butt off to earn it. Nobody falls into success; it is not an accident, the bottom line is that we all need to pay the price to win. The question is: are you willing to pay it?

 

Thanks for reading.

If you liked this post please subscribe.

START!

This will be a short blog entry, but hopefully very profound. As author and financial coach, Dave Ramsey always says, “inspiration without instruction is useless.” So I thought of a fun exercise we can all do. The exercise comes from a book I read by Jon Acuff titled, START- Punch Fear in the Face and Escape Average. In order to align your life and see what you really want to accomplish during your lifetime, Acuff says to ask yourself and write in a piece of paper, “If I died today, what would I regret not being able to do?” By answering this question, you will get your priorities straight and hopefully get your dreams into perspective. I will share what I wrote for my answer:

“If I died today, what would I regret not being able to do?”

1. Not growing my dad’s business

2. Not going on entrepreneurial ventures

3. Not influencing people through speaking

4. Not having kids

5. Not helping my community

Those are honestly the 5 things I wrote down, so I ask you to take a piece of paper, ask yourself the same question, and immediately write down what comes to your head.

If you died today what would you regret not being able to do??

Thanks for reading!

Recommended Reading: Start by Jon Acuff.