What makes us or breaks us

Check out the following poem

I am your constant companion,
I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.
I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.
I am completely at your command.
Half the things you do might just as well turn over to me
and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed –
you must merely be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done
and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically.
I am the servant of all great people;
and alas, of all failures as well.
Those who are great,
I have made great.
Those who are failures,
I have made failures.
I am not a machine,
though I work with all the precision of a machine
plus the intelligence of a human.
You may run me for a profit or run me for ruin –
it makes no difference to me.
Take me,
train me,
be firm with me,
And I will place the world at your feet.
Be easy with me,
and I will destroy you.

WHO AM I?

A HABIT.

Author (unknown)

I read this poem the other day and I completely loved it. I realized that what we do everyday either makes us or breaks us. You can definitely learn a lot about a person by looking at what they do through out the day or their daily agenda. As I started thinking about habits after I read the poem, I firmly believe 2 things about habits;

1. We ARE our habits

2. We CHOOSE our habits

I think the latter is the most important statement because we can choose our habits, therefore choose who we are; we can choose what to do or what not to do. I believe everything starts with our dreams, after our dreams are established, we then we set our goals and ultimately, our habits are what take us to our goals and dreams. However, habits do take time, and they require a lot on consistent work. Habits are both hard to form and equally hard to break, like the popular saying, “old habits die hard.” The good news is that in the end, it’s all up to us. If you really want to change, just look at the person that stares back at you every day in the mirror.

Tip of the Week:
Is there something you want to make a habit? Even if it is something small, you can start today. It takes around 31 days to make a habit, so see if you can do it for that whole period of time. Mark on your calendar today and then cross out the days until you hit 31.

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FACTS ARE BETTER THAN DREAMS

It is extremely important to have faith and to be optimistic—but equally important, is to be a realist and understand where you stand in life. This, in fact, is a paradox; you must be a dreamer and think of big things, but at the same time you have to face the brutal facts of your situation. I have always advocated that we could see the world through two sets of eyes, optimistic and pessimistic, glass half full or half empty. However, we must always have our feet planted in our reality. In order to go out there and reach for our dreams, we must have a solid benchmark of where we are starting and from there see what is attainable. For example, a child born in a foreign country could have been brought to the US as a baby, grow here, love this country, serve in the military, become a politician, but will never be the president of the United States. Unless the law, only a US born person can be president, changes, this is impossible. I believe this statue will probably never change; so he or she will never become president. Does that mean they give up? Well no, but they can’t focus all their attention into becoming president, it would be an unrealistic goal. Another example would be if I tried to play in the NBA. I don’t consider myself short in normal standards, but compared to those guys I would look like a little kid playing basketball with grown ups. With this is mind, it is probably wise for me to do something other than basketball for a living. These two might seem like very general examples, but my goal is to get you thinking in reference to your own personal goals and aspirations. I don’t know what those are, so you are going to have to write them down, face your current facts and be completely honest with yourself. Ask yourself the question; are these realistic? Sometimes only until we are completely real and honest with ourselves, is when we begin to change.

Tip of the week: Think of a situation in which you have not faced the facts. Maybe you are in denial or just don’t want to believe it, but remember facts are better then dreams, so face the facts and take action.

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Planning your one and only life

Planning is such an important concept of a person’s life, the problem is that most people spend more time planning their vacation, then planning what they want their life to look like. Plans are made so you dictate what you want your life too look like. For example, plan where you want to live, what career to have, when do you want to marry, and when or if to have kids. Furthermore, what would you like to be doing in 3 years? 5 years? 10 years? Or even 20 years? We must first plan our life and then through are choices get there. If you don’t design your life, then someone else will design it for you. We need to be doing things intentional and on purpose, especially with the choices that shape our life. Half of the year has gone by already, so set up a plan for what you want the rest of this year too look like for you, what do you want to do? What goals can be achieved by the end of the year? Design what your life should be like these last months of 2014. This year seems to be going really quick for me, but one of the things I am noticing is that the older I get, the faster time seems to go. Time is a dimension, and is all about perception. When you are having a good time or doing work you love, time flies, but when you are doing something you don’t enjoy; then time seems to pass by very slow. The reality is that time is the same for me and you, it is not faster or slower; time does not forgive and it will pass for everybody, so design your life, and do what you want to do, stop wasting time on things that are not going to get you where you want to be.

Remember, always when you set down plans or goals, they must always be in writing. There is something powerful about writing things down!

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I have my goals. Now what?

Last blog, I wrote about the importance of having goals in the 7 different areas of our lives. (Career, Financial, Physical, Intellectual, Social, Family, and Religion) So what’s next after setting up your goals? WRITING THEM DOWN. It is crucial to write down your goals because you need something to aim at, if you don’t have a target you will miss 100% of the time. Secondly, and more importantly, is actually creating a plan of action in order to achieve those goals. It is the how and the what, How I’m I going to hit those goals? What do I need to do in order to achieve them? Napoleon Hill said that action is the real measure of intelligence, so the best metric for our intelligence is not our IQ or GPA, but rather it is the actual action we take towards achieving our goals. I am sure we all know smart people that don’t do anything, so in order for us to prove how smart we are we must DO something. I believe that we are not measured by school degrees, but rather by the way of our thinking and our actions. Everybody wants to win in life, but how many of us are actually taking action. We all have goals, but we need a plan of action in order to achieve them. I read that a plan of action will separate you from the 97% of the people you meet. And I believe this is true; about two years ago I started to see that most people want certain things, however they absolutely do nothing to attain them. Everybody wants to lose weight, everybody wants to make more money, everybody wants better quality relationships, but what are you actually DOING daily in order to achieve those wants? Furthermore, remember that is really important to track your progress in order to get traction. Goals are usually attained gradually by building certain habits; rarely do they happen from one day to the other.  In short, here are 3 steps that can help you achieve your goals:

1. Write down your goal- You need to know what you’re aiming at

2. Create a plan of action- Have a plan and work diligently

3. Track your progress- Set deadlines and review goals daily

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How do you want next year to be?

How do you want next year to be?

 

As the year comes to a close, I hope all of you are already planning what next year is going to look like. If we don’t plan and determine what the next year will bring for us, it will just simply be a repetition of this year. It is imperative that we make clear goals for what we need to accomplish next year in the following 7 areas:

 

1. Career

2. Financial

3. Physical

4. Social

5. Intellectual

6. Family

7. Spiritual

 

These 7 areas make up the wheel of life, and we need to be working on all of these areas diligently in order to have an overall fulfilling life. We cannot just focus in on one specific area because then the other areas will start to slack. The key is prioritizing what needs to be done, but without leaving the other areas uncared for. I encourage you to take an inventory of where you currently sit in all these areas, and where do you want to go next year. Then write down specific goals you want to accomplish in all the areas. For example:

 

1. Career- finish school, get a promotion, get a bigger salary

2. Financial- pay off debt, save for a car/house

3. Physical- lose 10 pounds

4. Social- hang out with my friend “Zack” at least 6 times this year

5. Intellectual- read 10 books a year

6. Family- Call my mom once a week

7. Spiritual- Attend church every Sunday

 

These are just some examples that can help you think of what your goals might be, your goals should be tailored to what your wants are, just remember that your goals need to be SMART, and that is:

 

SPECIFIC

MEASURABLE

ACTIONABLE

REALISTIC

TIME BOUND

 

It is important that we budget our time in order to meet our goals in life, because that is the only way we will dictate how our life turns out instead of wondering where it went. Remember we are the both the director and the main actor in this movie that is called life.

 

To end this blog, I will like to thank every single person that is following me and has read this blog. I really hoped I had some type of impact this year in your life, even if it was really small.  Even a small impact through the words I write in this blog, for me is a total success. I hope you continue along with me, and I promise to give you even more food for thought, more information that will not only help change our culture, but also help change the person you see everyday in the mirror. Thank you for reading, thank you for your time, and I’m sure next year will be your best year yet.

 

 

Sincerely,

 

-Jose

Work now, play later…

Work now, play later, that is the way it works, however most people decided to play now and work later. People forget that we need to give up to go up, we need to sacrifice and focus on the things that actually make an impact on our lives. The sooner we learn this principle, the sooner we will be able to dedicate time to the what matters most. You see we need to make some type of alignment in our lives and be strategic. How many people do you know that are always busy, always doing something, however they are not aligned. All those things that are keeping them busy are not really having an impact in their life. They are not positioning themselves where they need to be, and are not doing the things they need to win in life. One important habit to learn is to start with the end in mind, be a big-picture thinker. Seeing the big picture, and really thinking where you want to go in life not only helps you get things in perspective, but also ensures you start doing the small things that align with the big thing. For example, when you work on a big goal, you need to create sub-set goals that all lead to the primary goal. Don’t be salve to the immediate, be a big picture thinker. Are you doing something today that is leading you to your goals?

 

 

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2 questions you need to ask yourself to change your life.

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If we want to change our life, we have to first ask ourselves two questions: 1. What to remove? and 2. What to add?

 

1. What to remove?

 

You need to ask yourself, “ What do I need to remove from my life that is not helping me grow and achieve the things I want?” For example, it could be certain people that are bringing bad influences into your life. There is a saying in Spanish that says “dime con quien andas y te dire quien eres” which means, tell me who you hang out with and I will tell you who you are. It is just a fact that we begin to think, speak, and act like the people we associate with; however, sometimes these people are not necessarily the best influence in our life. This is a hard fact because sometimes it is people we have known for a long time or even worse, members of our own family. Donald Trump said that on the way to the top one must be prepared to lose friends and family.  We have all experience this, people do change, how many of us have lost friendships with people we were really close with, and now we have no idea where they are or what they are doing. Also, we  need to remove from our life habits that are not contributing anything to our life. One of the worse habits, in my opinion, is Television.

 

67% of wealthy people watch 1 hour or less of television per day vs. 23% of poor people

 

6% of wealthy people watch reality TV vs. 78% of poor people

 

Some interesting statistics to think about don’t you think?

 

 

2. What to add?

The second question we have to ask ourselves is what to add? This is similar to the previous question because we have to ask ourselves “what people and habits do I have to add to my life in order to grow? What people are positive thinkers and bring a good influence in my life? We cannot hang out with people who are complainers and whiners because, with time, we will eventually begin to act and turn into them. Furthermore, we need to create habits that are good for us, habits that have worked for other successful people. If you want to be successful, do what successful people do, if you want to be rich do things that rich people do, if you want to be skinny do things that skinny people do.  This also works vice versa, such as, if you want to be poor do what poor people do; in business this is called best practices. Lastly, we need to start the habit of creating goals and setting up a plan for achieving them. Goals are what propel us forward, goals are what keep us moving; goals keep us grinding through the ups and downs of everyday life.

 

67% of wealthy people write down their goals vs. 17% of poor people

 

84% of wealthy people believe good habits create opportunity luck vs. 4% of poor people

 

81% of wealthy people maintain a to-do list vs. 19% of poor people

 

More interesting statistics to think about.

 

This week think about what you need to remove from your life and what you need to add in order to keep growing.

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