Waiting Sucks

Yes. Waiting for results to happen or waiting to get certain things, really does suck. We have all suffered of impatience, especially in the world today, where our culture is so caught up and focused on having everything right away. You want that new dress you bought online fast, then just get expedite shipping, you want to listen to that new album or watch that new movie, you can download it in minutes. We are becoming so accustomed to having things instantly that, sadly, we are becoming slaves to the immediate. We want everything now and everything fast. With technology making a lot of this possible, we are forgetting about the things that do take time; it takes time to build a career, it takes time to grow a relationship, it takes time to save money. In reality, the things that are most important in life take time, as well as a lot of hard work, and extreme diligence. A definition of maturity is the ability to delay pleasure. Meaning that you have to be mature enough to prioritize what is more important to you, and say no to other things, that are not really beneficial. People are having a hard time maturing these days, and it is all because they can’t delay pleasure. People act like that 4 year old in the cereal aisle at a super market that throws a fit. Remember the paradox of life; yes life goes by fast, but also remember that life is long. Anything worthwhile will take time. Don’t be so trigger-happy for everything. Analyze your priorities, and really think what is the best thing for you. And most importantly, learn to be patient. I believe you can get anything you want in life if you have a plan, and work day in and day out to get it.

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I leave you with a quote this week,

“ THE WORLD STEPS ASIDE FOR THE MAN WHO KNOWS WHERE HE IS GOING”
–James Allen

What makes us or breaks us

Check out the following poem

I am your constant companion,
I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.
I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.
I am completely at your command.
Half the things you do might just as well turn over to me
and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed –
you must merely be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done
and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically.
I am the servant of all great people;
and alas, of all failures as well.
Those who are great,
I have made great.
Those who are failures,
I have made failures.
I am not a machine,
though I work with all the precision of a machine
plus the intelligence of a human.
You may run me for a profit or run me for ruin –
it makes no difference to me.
Take me,
train me,
be firm with me,
And I will place the world at your feet.
Be easy with me,
and I will destroy you.

WHO AM I?

A HABIT.

Author (unknown)

I read this poem the other day and I completely loved it. I realized that what we do everyday either makes us or breaks us. You can definitely learn a lot about a person by looking at what they do through out the day or their daily agenda. As I started thinking about habits after I read the poem, I firmly believe 2 things about habits;

1. We ARE our habits

2. We CHOOSE our habits

I think the latter is the most important statement because we can choose our habits, therefore choose who we are; we can choose what to do or what not to do. I believe everything starts with our dreams, after our dreams are established, we then we set our goals and ultimately, our habits are what take us to our goals and dreams. However, habits do take time, and they require a lot on consistent work. Habits are both hard to form and equally hard to break, like the popular saying, “old habits die hard.” The good news is that in the end, it’s all up to us. If you really want to change, just look at the person that stares back at you every day in the mirror.

Tip of the Week:
Is there something you want to make a habit? Even if it is something small, you can start today. It takes around 31 days to make a habit, so see if you can do it for that whole period of time. Mark on your calendar today and then cross out the days until you hit 31.

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Are you disciplined?

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Today, after a long day at work, I kicked my feet up on my bed and was about to turn on the TV to relax, which would mean breaking my commitment to 0 hours of TV watching during the week. Ignoring temptation was hard; I had a long day and I just wanted to watch some TV and relax. However, I was disciplined enough to not break my promise and instead I started writing this blog. This blog is about exemptions and discipline. We all have certain things we want to be disciplined on; however, sometimes we try to make exemptions and make ourselves believe that there is a legitimate excuse for breaking certain promises or goals. We have to understand however that if we do an exemption then it will just lead to future exemptions, and this will ultimately delay or stop our goals. The first time I heard about this concept was listening to a podcast by Zig Ziglar.  In the podcast, he spoke about how exemptions will kill you and that no matter what; we always have to be disciplined. Ziglar gives an example in which he had committed himself to a jog every morning at 5:30 am; however, the previous night he had gone to bed a 4 o’clock in the morning. Ziglar said that he debated with himself whether to get up at 5:30am or sleep in. Ziglar says that his body, mind and every fiber of his being  were telling him to sleep in; HOWEVER, he had made a commitment so therefore, he decided to get up and go for the run. Was it a horrible run? Yes. Did he feel really crappy running? Yes. Did he wish he was sleeping like the rest of us? Yes. Did he have a horrible day cause of the lack of sleep? Yes. Nevertheless, he stuck with his commitment and you bet he was in bed already at 8 p.m. that follwing night. Ziglar claims that this was one of the most important decisions he has ever made in his life. He stayed disciplined; he stayed committed based on principle. You see, sometimes we make one exception, then the following week we make another exception, then another, and so on, and as I mentioned before what happens is that we end up breaking our commitment. Sometimes the problem does not even have to do with making an exemption; the problem is that we like to make excuses. As a culture we have excuses for everything. We love to justify our every move and make excuses. I mean, how many of us out there have not tried a diet or a workout plan? And I know that if you are like me, we tend to make exemptions all the time. I’m sure we have made comments like, “It will only be for today,” or “It’s a special occasion, I can eat whatever I want,” or “I don’t have time to go run,” or “I’m tired.” In my opinion, none of those really qualify for legitimate reasons to make any exemption; they are just bunch of excuses. The solution oftentimes is to just be disciplined in our lives. Discipline is tough, and we usually learn discipline from our parents, school, and culture. We must admit, some of us are not very well disciplined; and we all have areas in our lives we wish we were more disciplined in. In my opinion, the best discipline is self-discipline. It is the discipline we intentionally follow, because of principle.  You have to be disciplined with your goals, you have to be disciplined in your relationships, you have to be disciplined at your work, you have to be disciplined with every aspect in your life. So the next time you are going to break a commitment, ask yourself: is this really a legitimate exemption or is it just an excuse?

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