What is the sole purpose of a rubber band? The sole purpose of a rubber band is to stretch; if a rubber band does not stretch, it is very much useless. So what do we have in common with a rubber band? Well, we have to stretch too; meaning that we have to keep growing, learning and striving every single day to become a better person. The best way to become more valuable can only be done by stretching. If you do not stretch, then what is your purpose? If we do not keep changing, then what are we doing? In fact, change and growth are the only evidence things are alive. So be alive! I am 26 years old and I am definitely not the same person I was when I was 21. I definitely did not think the same way as I do now. Also I did not lead the same, and in fact I made some really dumb decisions. Now, 5 years later, I make less dumb decisions, but I know for sure that I’m not that same 21-year-old kid. Furthermore, 5 years from now, I will also be different and hopefully I make even fewer dumb decisions. Imagine how you will change also in the next 5 or even 10 years! Maybe you will even be unrecognizable. The point is that we should be constantly changing. The world changes so we must change with it. However, people only truly change when they want to, or they hurt so much that they have to. But it is always a conscious choice. One difference between successful people and normal people is that they learn from their mistakes, they say “never again!” or “I will never go back.” Remember GROWTH=CHANGE. In the end, life is just a big wheel of change, embrace it, and always keep stretching.
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Quote of the week.
Five years from now you will be the same person you are, except for the books your read and the people you meet
Leadership is influence. The first question you have to ask yourself in order to find out if you are leadership material is: “Do I have influence over others?” If you can influence others, then you can lead. If you can lead, then you can influence others. Leaders initiate and make an impact in others’ lives. Is this you? Do you make an impact and initiate? Or do you wait for others to take the first step and then follow? There is nothing wrong with being a follower, it just means you have not learned how to lead. Furthermore, in order to lead, you must also know how to follow. Leadership attributes are hard to measure, but I will tell you this, leaders are winners. Leaders take the wheel and drive the bus. Leaders do not motivate, they inspire. You follow a leader because of what is in it for you. Additionally, a good leader does not stand on top of the mountain and calls his people; a good leader comes down from the mountain and takes his people up there with him. A good leader genuinely wants others to win. Just as Zig Ziggler used to say, “you can get anything you want in life, if you help others get what they want,” and that is exactly what leaders do. Leaders serve and help others achieve their goals. This is often hard for some people, because as humans we are competitive; we want to win and we want to beat others, so putting other people before ourselves does not always come so naturally to us. However, I guarantee you, that if you start putting others first, your life will drastically change. Will you be taken as a fool sometimes? Well, yes, but more often then not you will become liked, and you will get that chance to influence others. As speaker and author, John Maxwell says, “People don’t really care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Maxwell is right; first you have to make that connection with people in order to achieve that common ground, then give them the very best by adding value to their lives.
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Yes. Waiting for results to happen or waiting to get certain things, really does suck. We have all suffered of impatience, especially in the world today, where our culture is so caught up and focused on having everything right away. You want that new dress you bought online fast, then just get expedite shipping, you want to listen to that new album or watch that new movie, you can download it in minutes. We are becoming so accustomed to having things instantly that, sadly, we are becoming slaves to the immediate. We want everything now and everything fast. With technology making a lot of this possible, we are forgetting about the things that do take time; it takes time to build a career, it takes time to grow a relationship, it takes time to save money. In reality, the things that are most important in life take time, as well as a lot of hard work, and extreme diligence. A definition of maturity is the ability to delay pleasure. Meaning that you have to be mature enough to prioritize what is more important to you, and say no to other things, that are not really beneficial. People are having a hard time maturing these days, and it is all because they can’t delay pleasure. People act like that 4 year old in the cereal aisle at a super market that throws a fit. Remember the paradox of life; yes life goes by fast, but also remember that life is long. Anything worthwhile will take time. Don’t be so trigger-happy for everything. Analyze your priorities, and really think what is the best thing for you. And most importantly, learn to be patient. I believe you can get anything you want in life if you have a plan, and work day in and day out to get it.
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I leave you with a quote this week,
“ THE WORLD STEPS ASIDE FOR THE MAN WHO KNOWS WHERE HE IS GOING”
I try to ask my self this question quite often. Unfortunately, I have noticed that our lives usually become a routine, making our life stagnant. Therefore, it is good for us to try new things; as simple as they might seem. We open the door to new opportunities and adventures, only by trying things for the first time. For example, can you remember when you had a first? First kiss, first drive, first day of school, first concert, or first bite of sushi. Remember the adrenaline throughout your body which was mixed in with a little bit of anxiety and fear? Maybe even a little bit of hesitation or resistance at the beginning? The feeling is awesome, and it is something we should continuously be feeling throughout our lives. When we are younger, our lives are filled with plenty of spontaneity; however, as we grow older we tend to conform into a routine, where we do the same things over and over again. It is easy to fall into this trap, so our job is to always look for new things to try. Even just changing the way you drive to school or work, or maybe just trying something new next time you go to your favorite restaurant. Another benefit of consistently trying new things is that it rushes creativity and imagination into our brain. Our brain becomes hit with new stimuli that it has never experienced before. This can bring new ideas and solutions to some of our problems.
Sometimes people don’t like to try new things because:
1. They are scared
2. They might not like it
3. They might fail
4. Think is a waste of time.
5. Are worried about what others say or think
However, we must understand that we actually grow and learn by trying new things. When we are babies we learn by trial and error, if we touch the stove and is hot, we will not touch it again, but we learned the lesson, we got that experience. As adults it is actually no different, we still learn a lot of things by trial and error. So go out there and do some living!
Tip of the week: This week I want you to try something for the very first time. Do something new, do something different. You decide.
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Last blog, I wrote about the importance of having goals in the 7 different areas of our lives. (Career, Financial, Physical, Intellectual, Social, Family, and Religion) So what’s next after setting up your goals? WRITING THEM DOWN. It is crucial to write down your goals because you need something to aim at, if you don’t have a target you will miss 100% of the time. Secondly, and more importantly, is actually creating a plan of action in order to achieve those goals. It is the how and the what, How I’m I going to hit those goals? What do I need to do in order to achieve them? Napoleon Hill said that action is the real measure of intelligence, so the best metric for our intelligence is not our IQ or GPA, but rather it is the actual action we take towards achieving our goals. I am sure we all know smart people that don’t do anything, so in order for us to prove how smart we are we must DO something. I believe that we are not measured by school degrees, but rather by the way of our thinking and our actions. Everybody wants to win in life, but how many of us are actually taking action. We all have goals, but we need a plan of action in order to achieve them. I read that a plan of action will separate you from the 97% of the people you meet. And I believe this is true; about two years ago I started to see that most people want certain things, however they absolutely do nothing to attain them. Everybody wants to lose weight, everybody wants to make more money, everybody wants better quality relationships, but what are you actually DOING daily in order to achieve those wants? Furthermore, remember that is really important to track your progress in order to get traction. Goals are usually attained gradually by building certain habits; rarely do they happen from one day to the other. In short, here are 3 steps that can help you achieve your goals:
1. Write down your goal- You need to know what you’re aiming at
2. Create a plan of action- Have a plan and work diligently
3. Track your progress- Set deadlines and review goals daily
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